Early adulthood focus brings one to the realm of reality by revealing the day-to-day responsibilities and burden befalling members in this category of their personal life. In practice, every individual yearns for betterment of the present situation in which one is raised. For instance, many children in their adolescent stage will often state that they work hard to better their parenting role and avoid the challenges their faced. However, the attainment of such personal goals for them has never been simple in practice as it seemed to them when orally stated before they assumed their new role and status in early adulthood. Unfortunately, many victims will recant their initial statements which they publicly stated back then, when they fail to realize their adolescence objectives. Overcoming the early adulthood challenges requires exemplary balancing skills at the individual level to overcome repetitive and competing requirements existing as a compelling reality.
Since enrolling in Royal Nursing College, June Andale would ever spend her leisure time reviewing her awaiting events in the early adulthood phase. She would continuously find time for this for her to ensure the ordeal curtailing her childhood shattered goals are never passed over to her children. In view of that, she would ever attend transition conferences meant for the freshly married couples for smooth progression as they assume their new responsibilities in their young homes. Over the years, June received a shot in the arm when she managed to establish and sustain an active peer-network formulated to foster their empowerment of parenting colleagues. As June reveals during this interview, she managed to strike a balance between the requirements of her studies and the new responsibilities as a sitting official of the peer-network. Although no financial privileges came with the added responsibility conferred to her, she participated to her full potential to see the network succeed given her elderly age contrasted to others.
The new set of activities revolving around sustaining her personal needs, additional running of the peer-network activities and the usual demands from a nursing course left her with not much time to indulge in extra co-curricular activities. Ordinarily, involvement in such daily activities exhausts one’s personal capability to withstand the demands, at a cost of eating into career development process. However, like many others whose childhood dreams were abridged due to failed parenting, her life in past ordeal served as the driving force to push her performance to new heights. These exemplary features did not take her long before she notably drew the attention of gentlemen amongst whom she dated Samson in her final year in college.
June shares her account of story outlining the turn of events in handling her extra load emerging in her relationship with Samson. Firstly, her perspective of early adulthood began to change during the transition stage of her relationship. Remarkably, she describes how difficult it was to suppress the pressure on her shoulders by striving to strike the balance to handle Samson and the demands of her peer club and her adolescence objectives and relent none. This presented tough times which subsequently ate into her academic performance before she established enough ground for the new calling. Establishing an intimate relationship as a finalist topped her list of priorities, which through her personal principles paid her patience. For instance, ever enrolling in college she decided to postpone committing to relationships unlike most of her colleagues leaving her with much time allocated to peer-network and mentoring program. The fact that age was catching up with her served as the impelling force to the intimate relationship ending up in a marriage after her nursing practice placement.
Secondly, June shares an account of complex decision making role similar to that of many in fresh marriages after their graduation from college. In this era, the need for stable income flow for the family to withstand the tough times of dynamic requirements, demand careful consideration for the common good of all. This presented the young couple with a challenging scenario where June as the wife had to skillfully convince the husband to postpone childbearing rather than put their career progression and their family calling into jeopardy. Simultaneously, the spouse held a similar stance easing the burden for the two who preferred to prioritize their career and pursue competency in their respective fields of practice. June also cites the financial constraints facing them at that time as the compelling force to postpone childbearing and seek sound incomes to support the subsequent demands of a child rearing in the family.
Lastly, June reveals of the sacrifice she makes in her married status given the cost she paid during her adjustment period. In particular, she had to deal with losing most of her college friends and take a softer line in her conferences to build new ties with Samson during the transition stage. Similarly, she identifies with the complexity of blurring the distance between the two families by assisting them accept their in-law parenting responsibilities. Under this approach she seeks obliging with the role of a unifying factor to ensure harmonious living amongst the relatives and the stretching warmth of relations to individual family units.
The focus on early adulthood in reference to the account of June’s life present an agreement with the findings documented during family surveys. Firstly, an intimate relationship emerges as the interplay of forces shaping the personal growth prototypes for later interactions during human development process. This is adequately demonstrated by the June transition from a simple isolated life during her enrollment in RNC to her marriage to Samson. The driving force toward intimacy relationships arise from the social changes admitting the broader structural relationship that fight individualization threatening the moral fabric of the society (Gillies, 2003).
Secondly, human development during early adulthood requires wholesome growth of one’s personal growth annexed to objectives of professional development. The notable driving force leading individuals into couples is the push to sustain social relationships which eliminate isolation. In particular, emerging adulthood presents time to explore for attachments initiated during social networking and accelerated to generate a lasting relationship (Bornstein, Vandell, & Rook, 2010). Such a position is revealed from the interview findings where June social contacts with her peers in the network club draw the attention of the men where she finally engages with Samson.
Additionally, the nature of the early adulthood trend of remaining childless by choice is driven by various trends. For instance, most couples attribute their decision to their career aspirations alike June and her spouse while some cite failure to attain financial stability; a requirement to meet family obligations adequately in this dynamic era. On the other hand, others have an entitlement and commitment to elderly care schemes that are demanding in a similar nature to raising children. Alternatively, the spouse may suspend childbearing in the early days of their marriage owing to increased incidences of divorce cases and the sufferings it causes to primary and secondary victims (Chamie & Mirkin, 2012).
Information captured in the literature represents a form of agreement with the position exhibited by the June account of events in her preparedness and solving challenges in her early adulthood life. Like other couples citing various driving forces for their decisions such as attachments leading to intimate relationships, childless by choice and coupling, June and Samson are no different. For instance, the couple shows preparedness in their decisions such as prioritizing career aspirations rather than raising children. Similarly, June is seen to prepare herself adequately in a psychological setting demonstrated in how she handles demanding obligations as a nursing student, club official and a partner in the relationship with Samson. Unlike other couples, June and Samson overcome the early adulthood challenges through exemplary balancing skills to handle competing requirements existing as a compelling reality.
- Bornstein, M. H., Vandell, D. L., & Rook, K. S. (2010). Lifespan Development: Infancy Through Adulthood. Belmont: Cengage Learning.
- Chamie, J., & Mirkin, B. (2012, March 2). Childless by Choice. Retrieved June 17, 2013, from http://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/childless-choice
- Gillies, V. (2003, June). Family and Intimate Relationships: A Review of the Sociological Research . Retrieved June 17, 2013, from http://www.lsbu.ac.uk/ahs/downloads/families/familieswp2.pdf
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